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About 365 days of marriage

I started this blog in April of 2011. At the time, Bret and I were wedding photographers and it was a way to share how marriage is more about the day to day and so much more than the wedding day itself. For about 5 years, I blogged about the joys and sorrows of the Christian walk, marriage, work, family and friends. I’ve blogged every day since a few weeks after I started. In May of 2015, we photographed our last wedding. Now, I have become passionate about simplicity, particularly in marriage, Christianity, business, travel and life. For a number of reasons, we have become minimalists. I’ve found that having simplicity makes life so much deeper, refreshing and joyful. I hope that this blog will help others see the benefits of living simply.

Day 3431 – Childlike Wonder And Awe – or – The Secret To A Happy Life – repost

What’s really funny is that I was going to post about the importance of keeping your routine today….and here I am at 4:30 writing this post. I noticed this fun post in my memories and had to reshare it!

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Originally posted 12/2/17
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We hear over and over, have childlike faith. Be curious like a kid. Look at life like a kid does. There is so much to be learned from how a kid looks at the world, meets challenges, and how they play. One thing I’m VERY thankful for is a husband who loves to play too. This morning, I was reminded afresh of the power of childlike wonder. I watched a video about this guy who built Kylo Ren’s TIE silencer and BB-9E only from parts bought on eBay. He then shows the final product to a Star Wars kid’s club. The looks of absolute wonder and joy were enough to make me weep almost immediately. Take a peek at this short video about it. If you want to see the childlike joy reactions, start at about 1:40.

I want to live my life like that, to stop and say “WOW!” and not care what people think of my reaction. To appreciate what is right in front of me. And to actually play with it. How often do we build things, and then not enjoy them? I mean, seriously, you work so hard to have money in the bank, and “have a certain life,” but when was the last time you actually enjoyed it and played with it? I could certainly learn this lesson with books from the library. I’ll spend hours finding and getting new books, but I find sometimes it’s hard to actually sit down and read them.

In honor of playing today, I am wearing these.

I might even put on these.

How are you playing today? How are you seeking childlike wonder?

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Day 3430 – Update Of Reading Challenges – One Month To Go, Will She Hit 300 Books?

Whew, 11 months down, 1 to go, so how is my goal of 300 books in a year going? Well, it is extremely unlikely that I will hit that goal. My current book count is 158, unless I read 142 short books, I won’t hit it. But, my realistic goal of 175 this year should be achievable.

Here’s a breakdown of my last month of reading and my thoughts. There are a few affiliate links in here, marked with this -> * because I did read some great books. This means if you click on a link and make a purchase, I’ll get a small percentage of your order, at no additional cost to you. It’s a way you can say “thanks” for the recommendation:

Book #149 – Murder on the Orient Express – this fulfilled a book by Agatha Christie in the Mommy Mannegren 52 books challenge. This was my very first Agatha Christie book. I wasn’t wowed or disappointed, just, “eh, ok, I can mark that off list.” I did enjoy watching the new movie afterwards.
Book #150 – Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance – this fulfilled a book you’ve heard nothing about in the BCPL reading challenge. Ok, I fudged this one a little bit because I had heard about it before, but the whole motorcycle maintenance, nope, didn’t know much there. This one was recommended a bunch in Tim Ferris’s books, and by his podcast guests. I was very, very underwhelmed. I rarely finish books that I won’t rate 4 or 5 stars, this one ended up being a 3. I only finished it because it was long (~18 hours of an audiobook), and I had already put in so much time. Oy, happy to have that one done.
Book #151 – Do Purpose: Why brands with a purpose do better and matter more. – this fulfilled none of my challenges.
Book #152 – I’d Rather Be Reading: The Delights and Dilemmas of the Reading Life* – this fulfilled none of my challenges. What’s really funny is that this was written by Anne Bogel of The Modern Mrs. Darcy, and this didn’t fulfill anything in her reading challenge. This book, oh this book, was SO delightful and a MUST read for any book lover. It would make a great gift for one as well, so if you’re wondering what to get the reader on your list who has read everything, I’d recommend this.
Book #153 – Death of a Salesman – this fulfilled a book that has won a Pulitzer Prize – any year in the Mommy Mannegren 52 books challenge. Oh man, this was a HARD read, mostly because I have taken GREAT steps to NOT live a life like this. Oy, hard hard hard.
Book #154 – Ink and Bone – this fulfilled a book with a mystery in the Reading Bingo challenge.
Book #155 – EC Stories: Flood, Recovery, Community* – this fulfilled a microhistory in the Popsugar challenge. I have known the author, Kat Forder, for years and when I heard she was writing a book about the 2018 flood in Ellicott City, I knew I had to read it. This was by no means an easy book, but it truly does help to answer the question “why rebuild after ANOTHER flood?”
Book #156 – The Little Prince – this fulfilled a foreign book translated into English in the Mommy Mannegren 52 books challenge.
Book #157 – Vox – this fulfilled a book nominated for an award in 2018 in the Modern Mrs. Darcy challenge.
Book #158 – The Mountain Between Us – this fulfilled a best-selling book in the Reading Bingo challenge. I have to say, this was one of the better books I’ve read in a long time. I absolutely adored how the author talked about marriage. I will say, the movie was much like how Ready Player One was, in that you need to see both things as their own things. I only watched about 15 minutes all told of the movie, because they changed the characters SO much.

Current counts on each challenge:

The 2018 Modern Mrs. Darcy Reading Challenge – read 10 out of 12, 2 to go.
The 2018 #BWELLREAD Reading Challenge – read 11 out of 12, 1 to go.
The 2018 Popsugar Reading Challenge – read 31 out of 50, 19 to go.
The 2018 Read Harder Challenge – read 14 out of 24, 10 to go.
The Mommy Mannegren 52 Books in 52 Weeks Challenge – read 48, 4 to go.
Reading Bingo – this was one I got from my local library. It’s from Penguin Random house, but I can’t find a link to it. – read 15, 9 to go.

Original goal of 300 – read 158, 142 to go.

I plan on finishing The Modern Mrs. Darcy challenge, The BWELLREAD challenge, and the Mommy Mannegren 52 books in a year challenge. That will give me 7 more books and I’ll only need 10 more to hit my goal. In a lot of ways, I’m looking forward to reading those last 10 just for fun and whatever I want, without trying to fit them into a challenge.

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Day 3429 – Marriage Tip – Constantly Think About The End – repost

If I’ve learned anything by reviewing all of my blog posts, it’s that the ones where I am honest about something, and actually take the time to think through and write my post, that it is a much better post. There are many days it’s hard to write something, especially when most of our days look very much like the one before, that I just throw up something. But knowing that even my future self will be helped by what I take the time to write, encourages me to push forward, and take the extra minutes.

We have gone through a lot of losses the past few years. Every one is a reminder of the shortness of our lives, and the uncertainty of tomorrow. It seems that folks will go through something like a death or other loss, have a “sun breaking through the clouds clarity” moment, realizing we have to embrace every day, and never let moments pass. But after a few weeks or months, this thought is in the back of their minds.

One thing that Bret and I do nearly every day is look at the fact that we’re still alive as amazing, and the fact that either of us could go today is sobering. Most of our good mornings include, “I’m glad you’re alive today!” or “I’m glad you woke up today!” Most of our goodbyes are “It’s been real, I love ya.” or “I hope I get to see you again.” Instead of ignoring this fact of life, we acknowledge it every day. It helps us appreciate the moments we do have. It helps us move past a fight or disagreement quickly. It helps us to let things go.

I have no idea how long I’ll get to spend with Bret. I don’t know my last day or his. But every day of our 3,064 married days and 3,940 known days, is filled with the awe and wonder that we got another day.

….and a little eye rolling from both of us….

originally posted 11/30/17

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Day 3428 – Question For My Readers

Hey there folks. I’m writing a little early today because I’m working out of the “office” all day. I was struggling to find something to write about, so I wanted to turn the tables and ask YOU, what do you like to read here? What keeps you coming back? Let me know in the comments below.

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Day 3427 – repost – “Can You Go Into Bars?” “Can You Hang Out With People Drinking?” And Other Common Questions About My Sobriety

I’ve shared my story about struggling with alcoholism before. It’s common knowledge that I don’t drink. I want to say at the start that everyone has a different experience with sobriety, alcoholism, etc. This is just MY experience and what it’s like for me. Don’t take this post as a “oh my friend doesn’t drink, so this will apply to them!”

I, thankfully, experience almost zero temptation and struggle with drinking. The only reason for this is God’s work in my life. This is not a will power thing. It’s all God.

Ok, let’s jump right in!

“Can you go into bars?”
Yes! I love hanging out with my friends and bars are a great place to do it. Happy hour specials can be fantastic! It’s a cheaper bill for me either way! πŸ™‚ I will say, there are some times, especially when I went to Padonia Station/Ale House a few weeks ago, that I think about memories (ha ha, or non-memories) of my drinking experiences. I joked with one of my friends there, oh yea, I remember throwing up in that bathroom and that one. Fun fact, I was driving home from Padonia Station the night I was arrested for a DUI. So, I will say, there are SOME times that I think about these things. But it doesn’t make me sad or make me want to not go to a bar. It makes me SO thankful that God did not leave me where I was. Thankful that God had mercy on me during those times and kept me safe.

“Can you hang out with people drinking?”
Yep! If anything, I may be a bad influence to those who are drinking….I get drinks when they need them…this is especially true if I’m driving. Again, not everyone has the same experience with drinking. Some people can actually control themselves and not make a mess of things. I am not one of those people! So, I’ll just drive the ones that can! πŸ™‚

“Are you tempted to drink?”
I would say, there might be a little temptation here and there. Bret has a box of wine in the fridge right now and I’ve had the passing thought – “I’m an adult, I can decide to drink a glass, I’d be fine.” But since I’m sober when I’m thinking this, I realized, um, no, I’d not be fine. My biggest weakness was after that first glass, I’d HAVE to have as much as possible. So, any time I feel a slight temptation, God very graciously reminds me of what I gave up.

“Will you ever drink again?”
No. I have no intention of drinking again. There is absolutely no reason for me to do so. I can celebrate with friends with a can of coke just as much as a shot or glass of wine. I can go to Ireland and tour the Guinness factory and not have a drink (one day soon, I’ll share about my first brewery tour – which was actually the brewer of the last beer I drank). It was making this decision that finally sealed my sobriety. Every time I would “quit” before, I would find an excuse to drink down the road. So, no, no more alcohol for me.

Are there any questions I didn’t answer, let me know in the comments and I’ll do another post!

And for lack of a photo that really fits, here’s a “shine” that I do drink. πŸ™‚ (oh my, I crack myself up)

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