Day 2129 – What Our Sunday Looks Like

Posted on May 10, 2015 by 365 days of marriage

After we enjoyed church and a brunch with my parents for a joint Bret’s bday/Mother’s day celebration….we kicked back in the apartment.

For Bret, that means playing DC Universe Online. He made his character look like me!

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And a nap for me with Darth Tater.

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Day 2128 – 31 Reasons I Love Bret On His 31st Birthday

Posted on May 9, 2015 by 365 days of marriage

Today is Bret’s 31st birthday, so I figured, why not tell you 31 things that I love about Bret?

1. His love for God over all things.
2. His humility.
3. His love of working out and finding new ways to push his body to the limit.
4. The way he can be completely serious.
5. The way he can turn right around and do something totally silly and ridiculous.
6. His thoughtfulness when making a decision – this guy does not make any decision lightly. Whether it’s about how to conduct ourselves with others or buying a pair of shoes, he takes a long time to think about it.
7. His patience.
8. The way he puts our marriage over everything except God.
9. His extreme focus on the one thing in front of him.
10. His generosity with his time, talents and money.
11. That he sees this world as not his home.
12. That he trusts me with our finances.
13. That he can talk to ANYONE and make them feel important and cared about.
14. His honesty.
15. His love for others.
16. His hardworking nature. No matter what he’s doing, he’s putting his all into it.
17. The ways he’s changed me for the better.
18. His openness to correction.
19. His willingness to jump in and help others.
20. That he goes by Mr. G.
21. His laugh.
22. His willingness to be impulsive with me.
23. How he’s helped me grow as a business owner and photographer.
24. How he’s become a part of my family.
25. How he pushes himself to do things like attempt Guinness World Records.
26. The way he’ll talk in a cartoon voice with me.
27. That he provides for me.
28. That he always wants to improve himself.
29. The way he acts like a big kid.
30. The way he thinks.
31. How he has made it through 2128 days of marriage with me.

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Photo credit: Nilepoc Media

Day 2127 – Mr. G Got To Eat At Mr. G’s!

Posted on May 8, 2015 by 365 days of marriage

Tonight, we were driving home a different way and past a place called Mr. G’s! At school, Bret goes by Mr. G, because it’s just easier for the kids to say.

While it took a little while to get our food, it was worth every single second. Bret got a triple patty burger and I got a cheese steak and cheese fries. I don’t think either of us have said “oh my gosh, this is so good” so many times. Bret said, “that’s what a burger is supposed to taste like!” and I would say that the cheese steak was the best I’ve had outside of Philly. Hands down.

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Day 2125 – My Husband Loves Someone Else More Than Me

Posted on May 6, 2015 by 365 days of marriage

The other night, Bret and I were chatting on the porch and he made a confession. He doesn’t love me most of all. To my surprise, I said the same to him.

Seven years ago, this would not have been the case. This admission of love for someone else more than him would have just been a “thing to say.”

My definition of love has changed over the years. At first, it was just someone giving me attention. Sadly, that is a poor man’s love and brought on much heartbreak. As I grew in my understanding of Christ’s love for me, this view changed to someone who believes in God. This was a little bit better than my first definition, but it was still lacking. Then I met Bret and it felt like everything changed. I look back on where I was mentally when I met Bret and I almost immediately wrote off all guys who were vying for my attention. There was no one else. As time went on, my definition of love became talking to Bret. Given that we had a long distance relationship for so long, those conversations were very precious. Then, he proposed and my “love definition” changed again to “someone who is a good wife.” For the first 5 years of our marriage, I think that was my definition of love – being a good wife. But last year, everything started to shift in my view of love. I think the first push in different direction started with a sermon by John Piper. He basically says that we count all things as loss already. Included in that list of “all things” is spouse. From that moment, I started to count every day as a gift with Bret. I slowly, truly started to loosen my grip on defining love as how well I was doing as a wife and his “good job wife” response as a measure of love. I started to count – how well am I doing finding my measure of love from God?

So when my dear, wonderful husband, with eyes raised in an “I’m sorry” tilt, said “I’m starting to love God more than you,” I was able to say, “you know what, me too.” What followed was a sweet time of worshiping God for all he’s done in us over the past year. Taking two very sinful, selfish, prideful, awful people and molding them more and more into the character of Christ. Whew, what an awesome journey! I truly hope that as the years go by in your marriage, your spouse is falling more in love with God.

Oh and taking crazy selfies like this with you. 🙂

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