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About 365 days of marriage

I started this blog in April of 2011. At the time, Bret and I were wedding photographers and it was a way to share how marriage is more about the day to day and so much more than the wedding day itself. For about 5 years, I blogged about the joys and sorrows of the Christian walk, marriage, work, family and friends. I’ve blogged every day since a few weeks after I started. In May of 2015, we photographed our last wedding. Now, I have become passionate about simplicity, particularly in marriage, Christianity, business, travel and life. For a number of reasons, we have become minimalists. I’ve found that having simplicity makes life so much deeper, refreshing and joyful. I hope that this blog will help others see the benefits of living simply.

Day 3246 – How Bret Sold His First House And How He Has Been Successful – As Told By His Wife – repost With Updates

I thought today would be an appropriate day to reshare the following post. This afternoon, Bret and I will be going to a closing on our fifth house. It’s crazy how much has changed in us and our business over the last year. Looking back, I’m still not sure why I didn’t jump right in with Bret at the beginning. But now that we’re working together, it’s a perfect marriage (see what I did there?) of our skills. We definitely have found a groove and look forward to rocking out another amazing year.

The following things I noticed in Bret are still true today.

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originally posted 6/9/17
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A few days ago, Bret sold his first house as a real estate investor. He has been working towards this for nearly 8 months. I wanted to share what I saw in his life that produced this awesome success.

He didn’t quit – There were many times he could have quit. Many times he could have said, “this is too much work, I’m not getting any results, I’m done.” But he didn’t. He kept working, he kept hustling, he kept growing.

He found a mentor – For years, I’ve noticed a trend among very successful people – they have a mentor. You always hear them say “my mentor said this, my mentor told me to do that.”

He listened to his mentor…eventually – This is a big key to success – actually listening to the one who has been there before you, who knows what you need to do, and ways you need to change. There were many times Bret’s mentor would say, “do this or that,” and Bret would do it….he might not like it, but he would do it…eventually.

He made a schedule, and stuck to it – I saw a big improvement in his business when he made a schedule and created systems in his business, and stuck to them.

He didn’t let successes give him an excuse to not work – There was one night in particular, where Bret had just spent several hours picking up a house. It was late, after midnight, and it would have been so easy to go to bed. It would have been easy to say “I’ll do it tomorrow.” But Bret followed his schedule and put out flyers.

He constantly fed his mind – Bret listened to so many books and podcasts while he worked.

He sacrificed – Bret is not a big drinker. He might have 1-2 beers on a weekend. Once he started with real estate investing, he limited himself to only having a beer at a party or when we hung out with friends. He repeatedly said, I want to wait to get beer until I close a deal. The night he closed his deal, he had two beers. 🙂

We will be celebrating with a mini trip or two away in the coming weeks, but that night we celebrated with Taco Bell and Bret had his beer, finally.

Even though he’s celebrating here, he’s also still working.

Way to go babe, I’m so proud of the success you’ve achieved and I can’t wait to see where this journey takes us.

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Day 3245 – Finding Bret – or – Having Fun In Marriage

On Monday, I went to the movies to see Solo while Bret ran some errands. I gave him a rough idea of the time I’d be done and when I left the movie, I texted to say I was out. He texted back simply “find me.”

We use the app Life360 to track each other. This is a really useful app since we share a car. Gone are the days of the calls and texts that say “where are you?” or “how much longer will you be?” A quick peek at the app and you have your answer.

So, leaving the theater, I opened my app to find my husband in the expanse of Arundel Mills Mall. While the app is really great, sometimes it’s a little buggy. I’ve noticed this more when we’re indoors. I ended up walking past Bret a few times. I also had my phone on do not disturb, so I didn’t get notifications of his text messages (saying things like “are you even looking at the app?”) I walked a good 10 minutes back and forth. Thankfully, I received this picture.

I was then able to find my husband, who had been hiding in a photo booth. While at first, I was a little agitated, in the end, it was a fun experience. I know he was sitting there laughing at me. The rest of the afternoon was spent eating tasty food and chatting about the movie.

Do you have fun in your marriage like this?

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Day 3244 – Schaffer Behind The Scenes – repost

Our internet is out today, so I’m reblogging this fun behind the scenes for y’all!

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Originally posted 5/29/15
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The first thing I want to say about this behind the scenes is how awesome the staff at Gramercy Mansion is! At the last minute, since the rain had stopped, they set up the outdoor ceremony site! What a great way to show the bride and groom that it truly IS their day!

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Here’s a look at how things go behind the scenes at a wedding….

We try to block out your kids in photographs…

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We try to sneak into group photographs…

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If you don’t let us in your pictures, we get mad…

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But don’t worry, we’ll follow you around to get in there somehow!

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Ha ha, we’ll just go where you aren’t!

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We get really sneaky…

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Keep your eye on the prize Bret! 😉

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Pssst, Bret, you can get in this one by fixing the dress!

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Ok, now get out of the way!

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Do you see a good spot for us to hide to sneak in??

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Oooo, I’ll “help” bustle the dress!

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Or at least hold the veil! Ha ha! I win!

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Day 3243 – Heartbroken, Again

Yesterday, floods ravaged my beloved Ellicott City, again. There was also flooding in downtown Catonsville, down the street from where we live. We are fine and no damage was done here. But I can’t stop watching the videos and looking at the pictures in places that I love so much. I know business owners in both places. I can’t wait to see you back, stronger than ever, Ellicott City.

What really stinks, is despite visiting Ellicott City often, I have so few photos.

This is from the basement of The Ellicott Mills Brewing Company

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Day 3242 – The Countdown Begins!

I can’t wait to take another Epic Road Trip this summer!!

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