Nine years ago, I met this crazy guy. Who thankfully could handle my crazy. It’s been quite a journey. I’m thankful for the crazy weather that gave us an extra day off together. 🙂
Day 2411 – The Last Awesome Nine Years
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Day 2410 – How To Deal With Disappointment In Marriage
Tomorrow marks 9 years since I met Bret. Because of this, we never really celebrated Valentine’s Day. As our dear friend Josh says, you should celebrate love every day. I joke a lot that we celebrate on the day we met so we can get cheap candy.
A bonus of Bret teaching is the number of holidays he gets off. Last year, President’s Day fell on our “met-ya-versary” and we did a mini getaway. It was so great. So this year, I thought, maybe we could do another one? As luck would have it, I found a great Groupon and we booked a 2 night stay Sunday through Tuesday. Bret had to be back to work Tuesday morning, which meant we’d have to leave super early.
As the weather report firmed up, Bret thought it wise to cancel the trip. So we did. I have to admit, I was really disappointment. I’ll be the first to tell you that our living situation is fantastic. It honestly feels like we’ve been on a trip for the last 10 months. But it’s always fun to go away. So once the trip was cancelled, I was really bummed. I even went as far as to look up hotels that were closer for a 1 night stay…before the weather got in the way. It was supposed to start around 11/12, so we figured it wouldn’t be so bad getting home. Bret was on board, but then we decided it probably wouldn’t be a good idea. Again, I was disappointed.
Here’s what we did instead…
Thursday night, we went on a date to a restaurant nearby. Delicious food and good conversation.
Saturday, we got coffee and enjoyed good conversation.
Sunday after church, we tried a buffet and it was one of the best buffets we’ve ever been to. After we got home, we watched a movie, read and chatted. We were able to watch The Walking Dead and Talking Dead live.
This morning, as we walked out the door to grab Dunkin for breakfast, it had already started to snow…a good 3 hours before the weather had called for. I realized, Bret made a really great decision. It would’ve been a mess coming home from the second option of a hotel.
While at first, I was really disappointed….and I let Bret know I was disappointed (I think a big key to dealing with disappointment). I told him since we couldn’t go, I wanted to do something….or at least know what we would do. I’m thankful for that conversation, because it has been a truly wonderful weekend and celebration of us.
How do you deal with disappointment in your marriage?
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Day 2409 – The Library Gave Me A Present!
We picked up a few books yesterday at the library and I found a wrapped book! There were a number of them but I HAD to get this one, I mean, it told me to!
It sounds like a pretty cool book!
Day 2408 – Should A Christian Watch A Show/Movie With Nudity? (i.e. Game Of Thrones, Deadpool, etc)
One thing I pride myself on this blog is that I put EVERYTHING out there. I haven’t hidden my drinking problem. I haven’t hidden our financial struggles. I also share all the good things too. At the end of the day, I want this blog to be an honest record of our marriage and what we’ve gone through. I’m not here to tell you what to do. Your mind is your mind, not mine. All I want to do is share MY journey through this topic. It is all out of love.
I briefly shared that we stopped watching nudity back in October of 2014. We were both convicted after reading 12 Questions to Ask Before You Watch ‘Game of Thrones’ by John Piper. And this post popped up in my search for a sermon this morning – Seven Questions to Ask Before You Watch ‘Deadpool’.
So this post is a “how is it going?” and a plea for other Christians to consider this. We continue to not watch movies with nudity. This has had profound impact on our lives, particularly, our thoughts. Before, I found myself replaying scenes with nudity in my mind. It’s crazy how stuck they can get there! Now, if I accidentally see nudity, it almost makes me sick to my stomach. I think of it like removing/decreasing sugar from your diet. If you rarely have sugar, you feel sick when you have it. I can also see how much it was filling my mind and how much it doesn’t now.
A few months back, when the Deadpool red band trailer was released, I excitedly started to watch it. Not even thinking….hmmmm, this is a red band trailer, why is it red? Before I knew it, there was the nudity. I still have those images in my head and I wish I didn’t.
How is this practically and emotionally? Well, I have to say, sometimes it really really stinks. I was excited to see Deadpool. I’m a HUGE fan of comic book movies. This one looked fantastic. There is a part of me that’s sad when I see the posts and media pop up about Deadpool. I get bummed out when I hear about a great show or movie someone saw, but after looking it up online, see that it has nudity. There is a part of me that is sad at these things. But on the flip side, there is so much more room in my mind now.
In my testimony, I said this – “Now that alcohol is not in my life, there’s room for God to be the most important thing. I now love to be near God, I have such a desire for him and his word. Because I’m not hungover, I can listen to sermons nearly every day and have clarity as I listen. Do you remember how I missed out on evening devotions with Bret? Well, now he’s listening to most of those sermons with me. Our faith is the number one thing we talk about now.”
I feel the same way about cutting out nudity.
Again, I’m not here to tell you what to do. Your mind is your mind, not mine. All I want to do is share MY journey through this topic. It is all out of love.
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Day 2407 – Marriage Advice And A Book Review
Thank you to everyone who answered the poll yesterday! I’m rolling a book review AND marriage advice into one post!
Bret found Marriage: Illustrated with Crappy Pictures by Amber Dusick at the library. We’ve had SO much fun reading through it together. We’ll read a few pages before going to sleep and it’s a great way to end the day. There are some REALLY funny pictures/situations in here!
So the advice? Laugh with your spouse….even if it’s laughing at the crazy things you each do! 🙂
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