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About 365 days of marriage

I started this blog in April of 2011. At the time, Bret and I were wedding photographers and it was a way to share how marriage is more about the day to day and so much more than the wedding day itself. For about 5 years, I blogged about the joys and sorrows of the Christian walk, marriage, work, family and friends. I’ve blogged every day since a few weeks after I started. In May of 2015, we photographed our last wedding. Now, I have become passionate about simplicity, particularly in marriage, Christianity, business, travel and life. For a number of reasons, we have become minimalists. I’ve found that having simplicity makes life so much deeper, refreshing and joyful. I hope that this blog will help others see the benefits of living simply.

Day 1715 – Kid At Heart

Last night, we celebrated the birthday of my cousin Brandon! He turned 21. Wow, I still remember when he was a kid. Seems like only yesterday. It was a great night of chilling with friends and family.

I had been wearing my Mickey ears during the day…at home…for no reason other than it makes me smile.

Did I take them off when it was time to leave?

Oh heck no. I wore them on the drive over and the whole night. πŸ™‚ I was the oldest one there and acted the youngest.

May you always do the same. πŸ™‚

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Day 1714 – How Did I Get Here On My Photography Journey? Or God Has Other Plans

How did I get here?

Let the redeemed of the Lord say so,
whom he has redeemed from trouble
and gathered in from the lands,
from the east and from the west,
from the north and from the south.

Psalm 107:2-3

I am a wedding photographer and my journey starts where most photographer journeys start. One day a camera found its way into my hands, I discovered the joy of creating something out of nothing, something to last forever and I didn’t look back. I took pictures of my siblings, the dog and the outdoors.

Then one day, a friend asked me to photograph his wedding. I had no idea what I was doing and looking back, I probably shouldn’t have taken the job! But, thankfully, it all worked out well. Half way through post-processing, I found myself thinking, “Why on earth would anyone want to do this? It’s so much work!” But then, the pictures were edited, the albums designed and I was smitten. A few weddings later, I wanted to go steady with this wedding photography thing. After about my fifth wedding, I was truly in love and knew I was made for this.

Have you ever felt that way about something? That overwhelming, heart bursting, “THIS IS IT!” feeling? If not, I pray that you do tap into that part of your soul that God has placed in you. Your purpose. At the time, I thought it was just a fun job. It was a great part time gig! Thankfully, the jobs I worked through the years allowed me to do photography on the side. The retail job wasn’t as easy to work around, but thankfully weddings are booked way in advance, so I could take off. And I was still in the early stages of the business.

After the retail job, I landed an IT job, with perks of on the job training in the programs that I needed for my business. What a blessing! Learning about what I loved and getting paid for it! A few years later, I was working as an admin assistant and I knew this would be my last job. After a few jobs that lost steam after about a year (because I wasn’t doing what I was made to do), I knew I wouldn’t go for another “filler” job. In the midst of this “last job” I married my best friend, biggest fan, business partner (even though he didn’t know it yet) and love of my life, Bret.

For years, I longed for the day I would go full-time in photography. I have never dreamed about something so long in my life.

A loving heart has waited long to see;
Those words will be fulfilled to which she clings,
Because her God has promised faithfully
” Streams in the Desert – July 1

I read these words through tears. All evening, I had been searching for the answer. Only a few hours ago, I was offered the new position at my last 9-5 job. As soon as it was offered, I knew my dreams were coming true. When Bret came home from work, I read him what I found. His first response was, “it doesn’t say she!” After I pointed out the words, he agreed that this was God saying yes. That was the moment I started the third most exciting journey of my life, full time photography.

The first greatest journey was when I asked Christ into my heart, the second was when I said I do to my husband. This love of photography had started roughly ten years prior. I took photos of everything and anything. Then I was asked to shoot a wedding of a friend. When it was all said and done, I was in love. I spent the following 8 years growing my business. I had to work the 9-5 jobs to pay the bills but I always dreamed of the day I would be a full-time photographer. It had such an allure. It seemed like THE perfect job. I mean, wouldn’t you want to work for yourself? Make the rules? Make your own schedule? It’s the life!

I’m sure if you’re already a small business owner, you’re laughing at my naivety. I’m laughing at myself. What a crazy road it’s been so far. The past two and a half years that I have been full time have been the hardest, most blessed, most tearful, most joyful I have experienced yet.

The area that is the most exciting is that even when it is darkest, God has given us exactly what we need when we need it. Not what we want when we want it.

Everything I do is for His glory…and if there is an area that I don’t give Him glory…you better believe He loves me enough to challenge my thinking.

This is me at one of my first weddings. Even then I was loving my clients and crying when I gave toasts to them. πŸ™‚

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Day 1713 – The Girl Who Never Ages (Or At Least She Likes To Think So)

I just purchased tickets for Divergent. Holy moly am I excited! I read the books in about 4 days. Great series.

Anyways, I’m going with brother #1 and sister #only. I was tasked with getting the tickets. When I checked out the guy asked if I had a membership card…nope…was anyone a student? Yea, a college student….then he gave me student pricing for all of us! I think it’s only a savings of $3 but it definitely makes me want to come back to this theater. Way to go above and beyond Mr. Ticket Sales Guy. For a chick that will be 1 billion seconds old (see #49) in about 3 months, you made my day.

Now to sit back with a coffee and do some business work until the movie!

Day 1712 – Top Ten Reasons I Stay A Full-Time Photographer

If you’re a business owner like me, you know that every day can be a struggle to get up and keep on keeping on. I was going to write a completely different post, but it just wasn’t the right time or topic. Maybe another day. But not today.

So here are my current top ten reasons I stay a full-time photographer.

  1. I felt a call on my life. At first I thought it was just to be a wedding photographer. Since I quit the 9-5 I have had countless opportunities to be there for others. The ability to lend my car to my siblings. Time to bond with others that I never would have had with any of my 9-5 jobs.
  2. As a thank you to Bret for all of the sacrifices he’s made for me. He believes in me, that is a huge motivator.
  3. To capture more important moments in others’ lives.
  4. I remember all of the memories I’ve stolen forever in digital format. Bwahahahaha.
  5. Because I have no idea what else I would do. I cannot think of a single job that includes all of my skills and gifts so well.
  6. Because each day we have our daily bread is a confirmation that I’m doing the right thing.
  7. Because my past self tells me to.
  8. Because I know we offer something different and special.
  9. So I can do this – day_00798d
  10. Because every day I ask God to “go before me today. I give you my day, no matter what that means.” And He hasn’t told me no yet. πŸ™‚

What about you? What keeps you doing what you do?