Day 3429 – Marriage Tip – Constantly Think About The End – repost

Posted on November 30, 2018 by 365 days of marriage

If I’ve learned anything by reviewing all of my blog posts, it’s that the ones where I am honest about something, and actually take the time to think through and write my post, that it is a much better post. There are many days it’s hard to write something, especially when most of our days look very much like the one before, that I just throw up something. But knowing that even my future self will be helped by what I take the time to write, encourages me to push forward, and take the extra minutes.

We have gone through a lot of losses the past few years. Every one is a reminder of the shortness of our lives, and the uncertainty of tomorrow. It seems that folks will go through something like a death or other loss, have a “sun breaking through the clouds clarity” moment, realizing we have to embrace every day, and never let moments pass. But after a few weeks or months, this thought is in the back of their minds.

One thing that Bret and I do nearly every day is look at the fact that we’re still alive as amazing, and the fact that either of us could go today is sobering. Most of our good mornings include, “I’m glad you’re alive today!” or “I’m glad you woke up today!” Most of our goodbyes are “It’s been real, I love ya.” or “I hope I get to see you again.” Instead of ignoring this fact of life, we acknowledge it every day. It helps us appreciate the moments we do have. It helps us move past a fight or disagreement quickly. It helps us to let things go.

I have no idea how long I’ll get to spend with Bret. I don’t know my last day or his. But every day of our 3,064 married days and 3,940 known days, is filled with the awe and wonder that we got another day.

….and a little eye rolling from both of us….

originally posted 11/30/17

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Day 3423 – Why I’m Thankful For Long Distance Relationships – repost

Posted on November 24, 2018 by 365 days of marriage

I had originally planned to post about Junk Food Day, I mean how fun is that? But as I scrolled through On This Day on Facebook, my status from 10 years ago, was “Missing him….” That him was Bret, and he had been deployed overseas for about a month. We had only recently started officially dating. Bret was only deployed for a little over half a year, but he lived in California, and I lived in Maryland. By the time we got married two and a half years after we met, we had only spent roughly four months in the same time zone….and three of those months were when he moved to Maryland a few months before the wedding.

I forget that such a large chunk of our relationship was long distance. It was our normal – saying hello and saying goodbye at the airport, long phone calls, big phone bills, and lots of sleepless nights from talking late.

But I can point to that time as one of the biggest reasons we have the great marriage we have now. Being that far apart forced us to ONLY have communication. It caused us to be honest with each other, I mean, why not be honest with that much distance between you? During those hours and hours of conversations, we talked about everything. During those hours, we developed a deep friendship, which is one of the core pieces of our marriage.

While long distance relationships aren’t for everyone, I sure am glad that I had one. 🙂

This is a photo of Bret from his first visit to meet my family in 2007.

Originally posted 7/21/17

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Day 3421 – How To Not Complain – or – I’m So Thankful That Bret Taught Me To Be A Devil’s Advocate – repost

Posted on November 22, 2018 by 365 days of marriage

One thing that I absolutely love and hate about Bret is that he is a devil’s advocate. When we first got married, I barely got to complain because he would always have a comeback to what I was babbling on about. “Well, you don’t know….” “Well, maybe they XYZ….” “Well, at least….”

He is the reason I’m such a big proponent of the “if nothing else” game. As I’ve grown in my devil’s advocating skills, I can even encourage Bret (ha ha, the student has become the master).

This can be a really sad and hard world to live in. There are so many opinions and sides and deep hate out there. I think something that could really help us all is more devil’s advocating.

Instead of thinking things like “I cannot believe they think XYZ,” “I would never ABC,” “All of 123’s are XYZ.” Try to think of things from the other perspective. “Well, if I had been raised in this environment, I can see how I would think/have trouble/struggle with XYZ.” “Well, if I had been in this situation, I might actually ABC.” “Well, I guess not ALL 123’s are XYZ. Maybe I can find out more about 123’s.”

I am in no way saying I have everything figured out. I cannot solve the world’s problems. I believe only God can fix what’s wrong here. But we can make things a little better by putting ourselves in others’ shoes.

It is also a very thankful way to live. When there are really rough days, I try to be super specific thankful. Being thankful for shelter, food, and health can really turn your day around.

And because I miss the little guy, here’s our rental car – Devil’s Advocate

Originally posted by 8/20/17

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Day 3419 – Entrepreneurs’ Day! – or – I’m So Proud of My Entrepreneur Husband

Posted on November 20, 2018 by 365 days of marriage

When I married Bret, I thought I was just marrying my best friend and this cool guy I loved. But a few months later, he was working with me, photographing weddings. When I closed my photography business, I thought that would be the end of working together. But here we are, running another business together.

In honor of Entrepreneurs’ Day, I wanted to share some of the amazing qualities I’ve seen in Bret over the last few years.

– He learns from his mistakes. There’s a big learning curve in investing and I’ve seen him own up to his mistakes and see them as a learning experience.

– He recognizes the power of affirmations. If we’re having a particularly hard day, he’ll say “Trade ya some affirmations?” Then we spend a good 10 minutes or so sharing some of our current affirmations.

– He has been humble in his success.

– Even after our first deal, instead of saying “screw work tonight!” He got right back to it to get the next deal.

– He works, even when he’s tired. The picture below was taken when he got home from school, he took a quick nap and then got to work on our investing business. Thankfully, we know this is just a season and won’t have to push ourselves so hard down the road. But this picture right here, will remind me of what we had to do to create the life we want.

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Day 3414 – Snow Day!!!!!

Posted on November 15, 2018 by 365 days of marriage

Wahhhoooooo! We got a snow day friends! I did everything necessary to ensure this snow day came to pass – from inside out/backwards PJs to a spoon under my pillow. What’s funny is that a snow day for us means more time to work. But I’m sure we’ll have some fun thrown in.

East coast friends, how are you spending the snow day?

Note – this photo is old and we didn’t get THAT much snow. 🙂

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Day 3429 – Marriage Tip – Constantly Think About The End – repost

Day 3423 – Why I’m Thankful For Long Distance Relationships – repost

Day 3421 – How To Not Complain – or – I’m So Thankful That Bret Taught Me To Be A Devil’s Advocate – repost

Day 3419 – Entrepreneurs’ Day! – or – I’m So Proud of My Entrepreneur Husband

Day 3414 – Snow Day!!!!!